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My oldest friend is Holly E MacKay. We met (we are told) when we were nine months old. We looked a lot alike. We have an odd sisterly relationship often awkward and unsure but at the same time comfortable when we get to see each other. Sadly we have not seen each other for more than four years. We exchange comments and the very occasional note on facebook.
You see, I have never been very good at keeping in touch with people. If they are present and keep contact coming my way I am usually very good at responding. But the moment there is a lag I drop the ball, hard. By the magic of facebook has opened the world up for me to renew and keep friendships alive better than ever before. in some ways helping me solve this problem. Even with facebook I have very few childhood friends that I have managed to keep up with. This isn’t because I have not cared for these past friends. I have spent many an hour wondering what happened to this one or that one. There are many that I can remember only a face, a first name, or where they lived, and very little else, other than an odd feeling that at one time this image, name or place was very important, loved or special to me, for some reason.
I think this is because when I was younger and dependent on my parents for a roof and food. We moved a lot. My friends changed with every move. Even when I returned to the same school after an absence, I would find a new group of kids to be with.
This has meant that my close friends have changed over time. Things are a bit different now though. Having now lived in the same general area for more than 17 years and been married for 12 of those I have managed to have some close friends that I have held on to for a long time. The degree of the closeness does change over time ebbing and flowing as our lives change now so very connected to our nuclear families (and even sometimes our extended families).
Even with all this change the end of the day when all is said and done my closest and most faithful friend is my husband. As cheesy and sappy as that sound it is the truth. Something I learned though is that you need other friendships to support and balance your best ones. So even if I have ones that ebb and flow I have this one very important one to hang on to.
I have to honestly say that this is the best writing I have ever seen from you. I'm guessing having something of personal interest helps? I really liked how you used everyday experiences in simple ways. I was easily able to connect your thoughts into my own life and childhood experiences. Yes. It helps that there are similarities, but I know that there are a great many more differences. Still, it felt like you were telling my story. Great job connecting with your audience :)
ReplyDeleteThank you so much.
ReplyDeleteWow! I think you were telling my story too (I also moved around with my parents a lot, changed many different friends, etc etc (everything you wrote, even to the last paragraph...my husband is my closest and most faithful friend). I like this 'makes me feel good about my life' piece.
ReplyDeleteI look forward to reading everything else!